Meeting Your Online Dating Prospect

Posted on August 1, 2010 by Kate

You have been communicating for a time with a specific person online. You have been enjoying it and the both of you seem to hit it off somewhat. Well, the time is coming, or perhaps has arrived, when you must meet this person face to face. And that situation is vastly different than communicating online.

Since you have yet to meet this person, although you may have seen a picture, you have a perception of what this person must be like. You have some ideas and thoughts as to how this person conducts themselves and how they look. So, the prospect of meeting this person face to face, can be a bit scary. You also want to make sure that you are everything that the other person might be expecting. But, of course, you do not know. So, what do you do? How do you approach this whole thing? Well, first of all, be yourself. Do not try and be something or someone that you are not. You will only doom yourself if you take that track. Be confident. That is a key factor. Be confident about yourself and who you are.

Do not let pressure enter into the situation. Just relax and let the date take its course. The most important goal you should have for this date is to just have fun. Enjoy the person that you are with and make it a fun evening for the both of you. Do not even think beyond that. Try and be enthusiastic about the date and the other person. Above all, do not have any expectations at all. That is the safest way to go. Perhaps a good, fun evening is all that you are looking for anyway.

If you are confident, then you will look confident and act confident to the other person. And if that quality shows through, then the evening will probably be a success. Do not TRY to be confident. You are either confident or you are not. It is not something that you can create. Do not worry about looking sexy or beautiful. If you are confident, then those things will show through.

By the same token, insecurity will show through. So, if you want to have a successful and fun evening, you must get control of your insecurity. Being nervous is fine, both of you will be a bit nervous, but try and overcome your insecurity.

One thing that will help this first date be fun is doing something that you are both interested in. Check out the profile of the other person so that you know what their interests are. You can then plan an evening that is based on mutual interest. Once you have done that, the evening can pretty much take care of itself with little help from either one of you.

The thing that you must keep in mind is that you are a very special and unique person. Remember what Mr. Rogers always said, that you are special. Keep that in mind and you will have a fun evening and the person you are with will see your strengths and your unique abilities.